“…wisdom is vindicated by all her children.” – Jesus
The long term results of our choices make it clear if those choices were done in Wisdom. Sometimes we make decisions and we are confident that we are doing the right thing…but the results show something different. Ever been there? How then do you and I ensure the our choices will have the BEST chance of producing good fruit?
Here are two ways:
I gave my life to Christ in 2003. Not a long time compared to others, but long enough to have seen some things. People make life changing decisions without prayer. I’ve had friends make decisions that has devastated their families because they didn’t pray it through. Emotions are seldom the catalyst of wise choice.
Colossians 4:2 Continue steadfastly in prayer, being watchful in it with thanksgiving.
God knows everything. Past present and future. It makes sense to enquire about major decisions. Unfortunately you run the risk of God saying NO, to the thing you have already made your mind about…I guess that’s the reason we don’t pray.
So before you pick, pray! What may seem logical to you know maybe the death of you later, because we are short-sighted and life can switch on us at anytime. But GOD…but GOD…
He has never let me down. There was a time I felt like leaving my church…years ago..and at that time I felt far from God and emotional about the situation I facing, so I said to my self “I will not make a decision till I feel closer to God again”. So I worked on my relationship with God and seeking His face. Well, that immediately changed my perspective on everything, simply because I was close to my Father again. I stayed…I’m so glad I did.
Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. 6 Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.
2. ASK ADVICE
The church is God’s idea and brainchild and our Pastor’s are His gift to us. Their honesty love and care for us is a blessing and their wisdom and Gods grace on their lives is a benefit to us.
Jeremiah 3:15 ESV And I will give you shepherds after my own heart, who will feed you with knowledge and understanding.
Since taking over the church in Sydenham, I have asked advice from EVERYONE! My Pastor, my pastors pastor and my peers. I’ve asked advice from men that have been preaching for as long as I’ve been alive and from men that started preaching this year.
The wisdom I have received has been priceless and has saved me from making terrible choices. I have been told the opposite of what I wanted to do and had to be humble enough to admit I may be wrong and I don’t know everything…especially when my choices could affect other people. God has given us this wonderful avenue…it a gift.
Ephesians 4:11 ESV And he gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the shepherds and teachers…
By the way, ask for advice from people that love you enough to tell you the truth, not people who want to gas you up and tell you what you want to hear.
Proverbs 18:1 “A man who isolates himself seeks his own desire; He rages against all wise judgement.”
3. CONSIDER THE EXAMPLES
There may be people who have made similar choices in the past and either failed or succeeded. Watch and learn. Many people say things like “I won’t fall in the same trap as they did”.
Somehow they think they are smarter or more spiritual, but I’m sure everyone say that before they drive off a cliff. They failed for a reason. It didn’t work out for a reason. The success rate is low…for a reason. That’s why prayer and counsel is so important.
1 Corinthians 10:11-12 These things happened to them as examples for us. They were written down to warn us who live at the end of the age. 12 If you think you are standing strong, be careful not to fall.
Christians can have their own agendas and say things like “God told me to…”, when God hadn’t said anything at all. I’m not talking to those guys. I’m talking to you…the man or woman that wants to do the will of God and will not use His name to rubber stamp their own agenda.
Once you’ve sought the face of God with prayer (and fasting in some cases), and you have waited on him, and you’ve received godly council from unbiased men or women of God (especially your pastor if you have a good one), then consider the options and the people that have gone before you – and choose.
We are free to choose to do anything we like, BUT we are not free to choose the results.
I hope you know what you’re doing.